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Dear Andreus, 

Unintentionally, my step-brother and I have fallen in love.  His dad married my mom, so of course we are expected to be “brotherly.” For that reason, we are reluctant to tell our parents.  Should we feel bad about this? What should I do?

Sincerely,

Chester L.

Dear Chester,

I can see that this would be a bit of a touchy situation.  However, the two of you are not blood related, and your brotherhood is merely circumstantial.  It is no one’s right or business to interfere. Your parents may or may not agree with this because they probably view you as a family unit. The only thing I can tell you is to follow your heart.  If you two have something special, by all means, go for it! Best of luck!!

Dear Andreus, 

My partner is telling me that I need to get a degree.  I am 25, and I have an awesome job that pays really well.  I have been with the company since I was 18. He has two degrees, and he constantly reiterates that my high school diploma is not enough.  I don’t know how to feel about it. Any suggestions?

Sincerely,

Randall M.

Dear Randall,

Furthering your education is never a bad idea.  But there are things that you need to consider. Can you devote the time, are you willing to take on the debt post-education, and have you given thought to anything that you know that you could fully devote yourself to.   No job is ever guaranteed, so in agreement with your partner, it may be a good step. If nothing more, it could be a safety net, in an ever-changing job market. Another perk could be an increase in pay!