Dear Andreus,
I have been dating someone, and recently found out after several months, that he has been sleeping with someone else. I feel violated, and like my health has been put at risk because he told me in the beginning that he was only interested in me. Now I find myself making a trip to the clinic because of his dishonesty. I am furious. I don’t know if I can trust him anymore, but I really like him, so I am not sure I want to leave. I don’t know what to do.
Sincerely,
Junior S.
Dear Junior,
Trust is an important thing, and so is honesty. But even more important is being realistic. We are gay men; therefore, you must always assume every possible outcome and protect yourself. Even though there may have been a conversation where it was assumed that you were only sleeping with each other, you should always assume otherwise. I agree that if he was sleeping with others, he should have told you, but you must take some of the responsibility as well. I cannot tell you where to go from here as far as staying with him or not, but there definitely needs to be open communication and transparency if you stay.
