Dear Fay, Love the show. I’m happy as a bachelor who regularly meets up with guys online. It’s never serious to me, just fun. I’m not looking for dates, just sex. I’m also not really looking for anything beyond a one or maybe two-time thing. Variety is the spice of life, right??
Over the years, I’ve developed a habit of blocking guys after I’ve been with them. It’s nothing personal. I do it to everyone I hook up with eventually. Maybe this is rude. Maybe it’s fine. I don’t know. But it’s never been an issue for me. Until recently.
I was at a friend’s house party for NYE when I saw a guy whom I had met up with last fall. As soon as he noticed me, he stormed across the room. The guy was PISSED. He immediately went off on me for ghosting him, then said I did the same thing to a friend of his… and proceeded to slut shame me. I felt totally ambushed and embarrassed since he did it in front of everyone.
After telling me off, he left the party before midnight. I also didn’t feel like sticking around after that, so I ended up going home and deleting all the apps. I rang in the new year by myself in my apartment, feeling like a complete A-hole. Deep down, I’ve always known this could happen eventually. Someone from my past might see me, get mad, and confront me. But I never expected it to be so hurtful. Am I wrong to feel upset by this? Am I wrong to block guys? The whole thing has got me overthinking everything about how I’ve approached bachelorhood.
