Those who follow and are familiar with actor Kal Penn know that he’s an accomplished actor on TV and film (“House,” “Designated Survivor,” the “Harold and Kumar” film franchise), and that he spent two years working in the White House for the Obama administration. What most may not know is that Penn, 44, has been in a relationship with his partner Josh for 11 years and the couple is engaged.

In his new book “You Can’t Be Serious,” the actor shares the story of how he and Josh met and fell in love when Penn was living in Washington D.C. In an interview, Penn explains why he hasn’t come out before saying, “I’m really excited to share our relationship with readers. But Josh, my partner, my parents, and my brother, four people who I’m closest to in the family, are fairly quiet. They don’t love attention and shy away from the limelight.”