Dear Andreus,

For most of my life, I have been overweight. Over the past few years, my weight was causing me health problems. My physician told me that to resolve my health issues and avoid potential disease such as diabetes, that weight loss was my best option. I had not been successful before, but now after much effort, I have lost weight. I am now lean and am eating healthy. After all of this, my boyfriend says that he doesn’t feel the same about me anymore. His reason was that he was attracted to me because I was heavy, and he likes chubby guys. We have been together for 5 years, and I don’t want to lose him, but I want to be healthy too. I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.  Help….


Giovanni P.

Dear Giovanni,

My advice to you, is to remove the rock and get out of that hard place. You have made a decision that improves your health and your future quality of life. Anyone who truly loves you, will want the best for you. Ultimately, your well-being is of the utmost importance. If he cannot embrace and support your choices, and his attraction to you has diminished because of those choices, then maybe your life needs to take a new direction. Your happiness should never be based on the permission of another person. Undoubtedly, this will be a difficult decision. Considering the length of your relationship I am sure it will make it that much harder. Congrats on the new, healthier you.