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Dear Andreus,

I have been single for a couple years now and have been putting myself back out there again.  I have grown tired of hookups, and really want to find someone to settle down with.  I have literally been talking to four guys at once, not sleeping with them, just getting to know them.  I feel like each one of them has qualities that I am looking for in a long-term relationship.  My best friend told me that he didn’t think that it was right for me to talk to more than one person at a time.  I am not in a relationship, just casual dating… Is this wrong?

Sincerely Ramon S.

Dear Ramon,

Rules, rules, rules.  We all have different beliefs about what is appropriate or not when it comes to dating and relationships.  It all boils down to what you feel comfortable with, and transparency.  If you are spending time with each guy, then be honest about your intentions.  Have fun and enjoy yourself, but you have to keep in mind that other people might be investing in you.