Dear Andreus,

I have a dilemma. I am stuck between two guys. One of them is rather juvenile in character, but we have the best sex ever. The other is everything that I want in a guy, though we have never had sex. I admittedly have been lonely and am longing for a fruitful and lasting relationship. I really wish that I could combine the two of them into one person, but I know that is foolish. I want to make a choice, but I just don’t know what direction to go in. Can you give me some insight?


Aaron P.

Dear Aaron,

I certainly cannot choose for you, but I can tell you that sex should not be on the forefront when choosing a life partner. Yes, sex is important, but you need to look at the other things that make a foundation for a strong and lasting relationship.  Friendship, love, support, communication, and transparency.  Who do you have these with? Who can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with? You have the answers, just follow your gut instinct, and don’t let it be overruled by lust. Good luck!