Dear Andreus,
I have been with an amazing guy for about six months now, however, there is only one problem though, he is insatiable. He wants to have sex every single day, sometimes more than once in a day. He says he needs it. In the beginning it was okay, but it is now just too much for me, especially since I am the bottom. I am very meticulous about cleaning before sex, and the routine is a very thorough one. I just can’t do this every day. I feel like I need a break from time to time. Is there a such thing as too much sex?
Sincerely,
Jacob F.
Dear Jacob,
It is certainly very common at the start of dating or relationships, for sex to be ravenous and frequent. It’s like having a new toy or gadget. There is usually one of the couple who has a higher sex drive than the other, just as there usually is one who is a bit more emotionally intense or expressive than the other. That is okay. The best thing to do, is try and find a middle ground. You both will have to sit down and talk. He may not be aware of how much work it is for you to prepare. You are clearly past what is known as the “honeymoon phase”, and it might be time to slow down, and find a rhythm that works for both of you. Be sure to have this conversation carefully , ensuring that he knows that you are still interested, you just need less frequency. In between sex, you can also explore other ways to be intimate. Hope this helps!
