Dear Andreus,

For the first time in my life, I am overwhelmed with options. I have been single for almost a year, and pretty much decided to just have sex, and avoid anything romantic.  Interestingly, enough there are four guys trying desperately to pursue me right now ,and they are each a good catch. I am beginning to feel like giving dating another try, but I don’t know what direction to go in. I guess I am just kind of waiting to see who steps up and take it from there. Any suggestions?


Josiah P.

Dear Josiah,

Well look at you!  I would be lying to not say that I am a bit envious. It is certainly nice to have options, especially good options. The only thing that I can tell you is not to rush.  Take your time, get to know each of them, and decide what you want for yourself and your future.  Don’t wait for someone to step up, you take the reigns and choose who and what you want for yourself. Go on dates, ask questions, talk about the future, get an idea of who they are in public and in private, then you make your choice. It is perfectly fine to date more than one person, until you make a commitment. Just make sure to be transparent. I hope that helps!