Dear Andreus,

I have been now dating a guy for four months. We usually spend quiet evenings at either his place or mine, but lately he has been wanting to go out. I am not much of a clubgoer anymore, but we have been going out quite frequently. The issue is that he gets super jealous if anyone says hi to me, including friends and associates, if he doesn’t know them.  I am not confrontational, and it is a huge turn off for me. He told me that he needs to know everyone that I know, otherwise he doesn’t want me socializing with people. I asked him why, and he said that is just the way it has to be. I really like him, but I feel like this is way too much, especially too soon. Am I wrong?


Roger M.

Dear Roger,

You are quite right to say that this is too much, the too soon is irrelevant. This sounds like not only jealousy, but insecurity. In relationships, everyone needs their own friends in order to create balance and space. The demands he is presenting you with all sound like a means of control, which is not only unhealthy but unacceptable. Good thing is it has only been four months. He is already showing you who he is, and what you can look forward to. I would cut this cord right now and move on. Relationships should never be about control, they should be about communication, consideration and consistency.