It’s never too late to learn something new. And when it comes to kissing, the pros say there’s always room to up your game.
PRIDE spoke with sexologists, educators, and adult stars about what makes a kiss truly unforgettable. Stella Harris, intimacy educator and author, reminds us: “The number one thing you can do to be a better kisser is to get consent! Asking, ‘May I kiss you?’ in a sexy voice is a flirtatious turn on when it’s welcome.” Tara Jones, LGBTQ+ sex educator, adds that big, bold moves without asking—like shoving your tongue in—can be a real turn-off.
Adult star Guy Spencer agrees and warns, “Never ever suck on someone’s tongue! I’ve had guys try to slurp mine down their throat, and it’s incredibly painful.” On the flip side, soft lips and slow, relaxed movements are always in. Sofie Roos, a bisexual sexologist, says, “Try to relax your lips and your tongue. That makes kisses hotter and more natural.” But great kissing doesn’t stop there; experts remind us that hygiene matters the most. Jkab Ethan Dale puts it simply, “Fresh breath. Make sure your breath is something I’d want to taste.”
And Max Lorde reminds us not to rush, saying, “Art takes time to perfect!”
So, whether you’re new to locking lips or a seasoned pro, remember—consent, softness, and fresh breath never go out of style.
