Dear Andreus,

I have been dating a guy for four months now.  He has an OnlyFans account, where he broadcast daily.  I am not really into the whole thing and was expecting that he would stop as we got deeper into our relationship. I asked him about it the other day, and he said he had no intentions of stopping.  I am a very private person, and just don’t feel comfortable with the whole world seeing him that way.  At the same time, I don’t want to lose him.  Am I wrong for wanting him to stop?


Peter B.

Dear Peter,

Well, as I am sure you know – OnlyFans has become a way of life or source of income for a lot of people.  The reality is that you knew that he was doing this when you met.  Regardless, you decided to pursue a relationship with him.  I can understand that you may feel some type of way about this, but this is ultimately his choice.  Again, you knew about this going in, so it is not exactly fair to ask him to stop. Unless he is sleeping with other people, is him doing shows really that bad?  Obviously, he has made a choice to be with you.  You must decide whether you can accept his choices, and either stay or go.  Maybe in time things will change if you decide to stay.