Dear Andreus,

I have been going through some difficult things in my relationship. A few months ago, I caught my boyfriend cheating. Although it broke my heart, I have been working past it, and we decided to stay together. Recently, I made a mistake. We were on a cruise, and I slept with one of his friends. I know it was wrong, and I got caught up in the moment.  Now he wants to break up because of it. I don’t think that it is fair that I forgave him, but he can’t forgive me. I don’t know what to do. I do love him, and I don’t want to lose him.  Please help.


Carlisle M.

Dear Carlisle,

To be perfectly honest, there is nothing that you can do. You can try to talk it out, but you cannot force anything, especially a relationship. Forgiving him for cheating, doesn’t necessarily give you a free pass in the same instance. Cheating is not a mistake; it is a choice. To everything there is a consequence, so regardless of the past, unless he is willing to forgive you – you might have to just cut your losses. I hope it works out, but if not, then you will hopefully make better choices next time.