Gay For Pay
Hey, woody! “Straight” guys doing porn. Right. What a crock of crap! “Gay-for-pay” is nothing but a marketing slogan porn producers came up with to get more people to buy their DVDs. I’m sorry, if you get rammed by another guy ON FILM your straight card gets revoked. No? — Out and Proud
Hey, woody!
“Straight” guys doing porn. Right. What a crock of crap! “Gay-for-pay” is nothing but a marketing slogan porn producers came up with to get more people to buy their DVDs. I’m sorry, if you get rammed by another guy ON FILM your straight card gets revoked. No?
— Out and Proud
Dear Out:
I can’t agree. Most people seem to think straight sex workers in gay porn are either closet case exhibitionists, money-hungry heteros or want-it-all versatiles. Personally, I don’t think they’re gay, straight or bi. I think they’re “buy-sexual.”
Gay guys should understand that term better than anyone. We’ve been trading sex for a certain kind of currency since the beginning of time.
How many of us dated, sexed or married a woman because it would “buy” us entry into the groups we wanted to be part of? Like family, friends, church, work or the military. We’ve been doing “straight-for-stay” a lot longer than straights have been doing “gay-for-pay.” Don’t let money blind you to the meaning of currency.
Gay-for-pay says, “I have sex with men for money.” Straight-to-stay says, “I have sex with women for acceptance.” The currency might be different but the dynamic is not: Temporarily thwarting authentic desire for something valuable.
I’ve had sex with a few women, yet if you pointed the Kinsey gay spectrum at me, Alfred himself would say, “Run! It’s gonna blow!” If gays can get it up for a gender we’re not attracted to, why do we think straight guys can’t? Somebody’s being pounded by a double-standard dildo.
On the face of it, it doesn’t make sense. Straight guys are almost universally repulsed by the thought of receiving anal sex from another man. Whether they end up with a guy out of necessity (say, jail) or out of desire (say, anywhere) there’s a standard macho defense: “I’m-not-gay-as-long-as-I’m-the-top.” Though most straight guys who go the gay-for-pay route are as insightful as a stopped clock (correct twice a day), I’m intrigued by some who contend that getting the dust pounded out of their rugs actually HELPS them dissociate from the sexual experience. I can see what they mean. If they’re not all that sensitive down there (every now and again you find ports that can take first-class cargo without much trouble), then this claim makes sense because the rest is easy. All they’d have to do is:
* Position themselves so that they’re not touching, kissing or even seeing their partners.
* Position themselves to watch straight porn as it’s happening.
* Fantasize it’s their girlfriends inserting a toy.
I mean, once you get past the act itself (and I admit, it’s a lot to get past) there’s no difference between gay-for-pay and straight-to-stay. Fantasy is the great enabler. If gay men can use it to get past sessions with women, why wouldn’t straight guys be able to get past theirs with men? What’s between your ears is more powerful than what’s between your legs, even if someone’s got them pinned to your shoulders.
What isn’t easily defined is easily dismissed. The closest most of us can come to understanding the phenomenon of straight guys having gay sex is to say they’re bi-sexual. It’s hard to see that they’re, in fact, buy-sexual.
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